Nick Cave has shared a touching insight into his family life by discussing the death of his teenage son Arthur.

Arthur Cave died following a fall from a cliff in East Sussex in the summer of 2015, aged just 15.

Now, Cave has founded the website The Red Hand Files, an open platform that allows him to take and answer questions from the public. Among the many, a woman called Cynthia from Vermont, asked a question in which the Bad Seeds singer described as “beautiful”. She asked: “I have experienced the death of my father, my sister, and my first love in the past few years and feel that I have some communication with them, mostly through dreams. They are helping me.

“Are you and Susie feeling that your son Arthur is with you and communicating in some way?”

Cave, seemingly delighted to answer a question, explained how he has come to terms with the grieving process that comes when loving somebody: “It seems to me, that if we love, we grieve. That’s the deal. That’s the pact. Grief and love are forever intertwined,” Cave wrote in response to the fan.

“Grief is the terrible reminder of the depths of our love and, like love, grief is non-negotiable. There is a vastness to grief that overwhelms our minuscule selves. We are tiny, trembling clusters of atoms subsumed within grief’s awesome presence. It occupies the core of our being and extends through our fingers to the limits of the universe,” he added.

“Within that whirling gyre all manner of madnesses exist; ghosts and spirits and dream visitations, and everything else that we, in our anguish, will into existence,” he added.

“These are precious gifts that are as valid and as real as we need them to be. They are the spirit guides that lead us out of the darkness.”

Delving deeper, Cave explained how his son still visits him and his wife Susie Bick: “I hear him talk to me, parent me, guide me, though he may not be there. He visits Susie in her sleep regularly, speaks to her, comforts her, but he may not be there. Dread grief trails bright phantoms in its wake. These spirits are ideas, essentially. They are our stunned imaginations reawakening after the calamity,” he said.

“Like ideas, these spirits speak of possibility. Follow your ideas, because on the other side of the idea is change and growth and redemption. Create your spirits. Call to them. Will them alive. Speak to them. It is their impossible and ghostly hands that draw us back to the world from which we were jettisoned; better now and unimaginably changed.”

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