Moby has issued an apology to actress Natalie Portman amid his high-profile claims of a past intimate relationship.
As part of his new memoir Then It All Fell Apart, Moby details his past escapades and details his colourful dating history and, at one point, proudly explains how he dated the likes of Lana Del Ray and Natalie Portman.
Moby describes meeting Portman in 1999 at a concert backstage in Austin. He also describes how they attended the VMA Music Awards together as a couple. Later, he discusses how he traveled to Cambridge, writing: “At midnight she brought me to her dorm room and we lay down next to each other on her small bed… After she fell asleep I carefully extracted myself from her arms and took a taxi back to my hotel.”
What ensued was a strict denial from Portman who, in turn, describes Moby as “creepy” and explains how she was jus ta teenager at the time Moby pursued her. “I was a fan and went to one of his shows when I had just graduated,” she told Harper’s Bazaar in a response to his claims. “When we met after the show, he said, ‘let’s be friends.’ He was on tour and I was working, shooting a film, so we only hung out a handful of times before I realised that this was an older man who was interested in me in a way that felt inappropriate.”
Detailing further, Portman continued: “I was surprised to hear that he characterised the very short time that I knew him as dating because my recollection is a much older man being creepy with me when I just had graduated high school. He said I was 20; I definitely wasn’t. I was a teenager. I had just turned 18. There was no fact checking from him or his publisher – it almost feels deliberate. That he used this story to sell his book was very disturbing to me. It wasn’t the case. There are many factual errors and inventions. I would have liked him or his publisher to reach out to fact check.”
Following Portman’s denial, Moby remained stubborn to his words and immediately posted a picture of himself topless and smiling alongside Portman via his social media. “I recently read a gossip piece wherein Natalie Portman said that we’d never dated. This confused me, as we did, in fact, date,” he said adamantly.
Now though, amid secondary criticism for his response, Moby has issued a statement to Portman. In a post on social media entitled ‘Moby, An Apology’, the singer admitted that fully recognises “that it was truly inconsiderate of me to not let her know about her inclusion in the book beforehand, and equally inconsiderate for me to not fully respect her reaction.
“I have a lot of admiration for Natalie, for her intelligence, creativity, and animal rights activism, and I hate that I might have caused her and her family distress.”
He added: “I tried to treat everyone I included in Then It Fell Apart with dignity and respect, but nonetheless it was truly inconsiderate for me to not let them know before the book was released.
“So for that I apologise, to Natalie, as well as the other people I wrote about in Then It Fell Apart without telling them beforehand.”
Here’s the post:
View this post on Instagram
I certainly haven't enjoyed this last week, but it's reminded me of a couple of things. 1-our sense of self and well-being really shouldn't come from the opinions of strangers. personally I think I'd become too reliant on external validation, especially in the form of social media. trust me, that has ended.. and: 2-my problems are tiny and insignificant, especially in a world where over 100 billion animals are killed by and for humans every year, and where we're facing largely unprecedented environmental destruction and degradation. for a long time my primary goal has been to be a better, and more effective, activist. who knows, maybe the insanity of this last week will somehow help me to do that. it certainly does seem that for me(or any of us) to obsess over social media when the world is truly falling apart is an un-ethical waste of time. -moby p.s-a reminder; none of our concerns will matter if the climate keeps rising, the rainforest keeps disappearing, and species continue to go extinct. social media won't sustain us in a world that doesn't support human life.
View this post on Instagram
As some time has passed I've realized that many of the criticisms leveled at me regarding my inclusion of Natalie in Then It Fell Apart are very valid. I also fully recognize that it was truly inconsiderate of me to not let her know about her inclusion in the book beforehand, and equally inconsiderate for me to not fully respect her reaction. I have a lot of admiration for Natalie, for her intelligence, creativity, and animal rights activism, and I hate that I might have caused her and her family distress. I tried to treat everyone I included in Then It Fell Apart with dignity and respect, but nonetheless it was truly inconsiderate for me to not let them know before the book was released. So for that I apologize, to Natalie, as well as the other people I wrote about in Then It Fell Apart without telling them beforehand. Also I accept that given the dynamic of our almost 14 year age difference I absolutely should've acted more responsibly and respectfully when Natalie and I first met almost 20 years ago. Moby