Laura Jane Grace responds to wife’s abuse allegations
Against Me! singer Laura Jane has responded to emotional abuse accusations raised by her wife, Paris Campbell Grace.
Last week, Grace’s wife shared with her followers on Threads that she felt “unsafe”, writing, “This is another example this week of my wife using her massive platform to attempt to hurt me. I am currently locked in my office with all my belongings, and actually really scared.”
Paris continued: “I don’t know what to do here, and I have nobody to turn to. She has thousands of people who love her, and it’s a great inequality of power. She’s been yelling at me since we woke up, I have remained calm (although admit I have cried a bunch after) and begged her to please be kind to me and try to have a good day.”
She also accused Grace of showing “sheer irrational rage” on a daily basis, and claimed the Against Me! vocalist was “perfectly safe, upstairs, tearing the house apart as I type this”.
Paris then detailed that she had previously been a sex worker before they met, which led to her allegedly being trafficked, and the experiences have caused her “a lot of trauma”. She claims Laura initially made her “feel so safe” after she opened up about this part of her life, but claims the singer later became “resentful”
She also said: “I feel invisible, I feel like nobody will believe me, and I know it’s not right. I feel like I’m living in a dystopian nightmare, everyone every day telling me how much this woman loves me… ‘while on the daily she tells me she hates me, wants me gone, but if I try to leave that’s an issue too!! I am not okay!!!!!”
Now, Laura has responded to the allegations on Instagram, writing, “I would like to acknowledge my fault here and take responsibility for my mistakes. Anyone who has been paying attention can see clear as day that this has been a toxic, codependent relationship from the start.”
She continued: “It was reckless of me to get married so quickly and I made a lot of poor decisions where I absolutely should have known better. My poor decisions have impacted my kid, my band and my community. I hold myself accountable for it and sincerely apologize.”
The Instagram post also included a lengthy statement from a member of her touring crew, who shared their opinion on seeing the relationship up close. Notably, Paris plays in Laura’s solo band.
Her crew member wrote: “In every instance, we hear LJG tell Paris to leave her alone and Paris won’t. She pushes and pushes until Laura snaps and yells at her to go away, and then Paris calls her reaction abuse. What Paris is doing is a form of abuse.”
They also stated: “I have spent so much time around the both of them both on and off tour, and I have yet to see A SHRED of evidence that LJG is committing abuse. However, I have seen Paris behave in ways that are manipulative, isolating, and coercive.”
The crew member also alleged that Paris “latched on to a very vulnerable LJG for her own financial gain and follower count”, before adding, “I have seen Paris isolate Laura from everyone that has any type of special relationship with her and I have seen Paris’ possessiveness and inability to self regulate take over and escalate to wild levels.”
Following the allegations from Paris, Laura Jane Grace cancelled a series of upcoming tour dates.
The statement from the crew member is available to read in full below.
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